EDGAR, AGED 11, ON NATIONAL DUTCH RADIO IN 1981
“HILVERSUM, NETHERLANDS On 10 April the first of two programs about inter-generational sex was broadcast over National Dutch Radio (the second, a month later, dealt with "the way Justice acts against paedophiles"). It began with a very free-wheeling discussion among a group of pre-pubertal boys and girls about their sex experiences and feelings. This was followed by a conversation between Gerard Zwerus, former chairman of the National Youth Emancipation Workgroup …, and Dr. Theo Sandfort ….
Most interesting was an interview with 11-year-old Edgar a Dutch boy involved in a sexual relationship with a 57-year-old family friend, Jan.”
The following excerpts were taken from the VPRO Publiekservice transcript of the 10 April broadcast of Expres VPRO. The following translation from the Dutch together with the synopsis after it were published in Pan magazine, IX, July 1981, pp. 8-9. The accompanying illustrations are from the same issue of Pan.
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EDGAR That's not so crazy. It's stupid when people think it is. If two grown-ups can have sex, what difference should your age make?
INTERVIEWER But a man of 57 has been doing it for a long time and has had a lot of experience, and you, as an 11 -year-old, haven't.
EDGAR So what?
INTERVIEWER Isn't there any difference, then?
EDGAR Well, not much. In the beginning I didn't know much about it, but everything just sort of naturally happened.
INTERVIEWER Was he the one who taught you how these things are supposed to go?
EDGAR Actually my father did. . . . It was normal for us to go about the house naked.
INTERVIEWER Did you sometimes lie in bed with your father?
EDGAR Sure. Maybe in the evening. Or when we woke each other up on the weekend we'd lay in bed talking.
INTERVIEWER And you caressed each other? Did you also do sex?
EDGAR No, not real sex, but we'd do it to our penises. They were my parents and I liked it. We all thought it was nice, my mother, too.
INTERVIEWER And what do you do with Jan?
EDGAR Well, in the beginning he usually caresses me, and I do it a little back to him. And then he gets aroused. And we don't like it if there isn't enough time. If you want to come and there isn't enough time that's very annoying.
INTERVIEWER Do you two do it a lot?
EDGAR Yes, two or three times a day.
INTERVIEWER How often do you actually see each other?
EDGAR Not too often, because I don't have vacation all the time.
INTERVIEWER Don't you miss him, seeing him so seldom?
EDGAR Yes. I really miss him more when I know he is coming than at other times. At other times I kind of get used to it, and then I feel it a little less.
INTERVIEWER So you really love him?
INTERVIEWER Do you ever think it might be nicer to be doing it with another boy your own age rather than a man of 57?
EDGAR No. I don't think I'd like that very much.
INTERVIEWER You wouldn't want to?
EDGAR You mean sex? I'd rather do that with a girl.
INTERVIEWER Does Jan sometimes want to have sex and you don't?
EDGAR Not too often. If maybe I'm a little tired I'll of course say I don't want to, and then he won't.
INTERVIEWER Does it ever happen that you really don't want to but you give in because you are grateful for something he has done?
EDGAR No, not really. He doesn't pamper me very much. And anyway I usually want to do it too . . .
Perhaps even more surprising was the following interview with Edgar's parents. Both were aware of the sexual aspect of the relationship between their son and his 57-year-old friend. Neither was afraid that Jan would abuse the boy's trust or compel him to do something he didn't want to do. "I am not the least bit jealous," said Edgar's father. "I see it as just someone else you can be crazy about, whom you can love." When asked whether he wasn't afraid that such a relationship might have undesirable side effects on the boy's future, he answered, "Edgar is more open toward people; he has become more human, asks more questions, is more curious and thinks things over better. From Jan he is receiving a tremendous amount of information about things which are important in his life. So I think Edgar . . . . well, I think he is a wonderfully fine boy."
 Pan, IX (July 1981) p.8.